Apr 28 2014

EMAW : Chapter 7

Proverbs 18:21

The tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Quiet Time Verses

Proverbs 13

A wise son heeds his father’s instruction but a mocker does not respond to rebukes. 2 From the fruit of their lips people enjoy good things but the unfaithful have an appetite for violence.3  Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.4 A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.5 The righteous hate what is false,  but the wicked make themselves a stench and bring shame on themselves.6 Righteousness guards the person of integrity,but wickedness overthrows the sinner.7 One person pretends to be rich, yet has nothing; another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth.8 A person’s riches may ransom their life, but the poor cannot respond to threatening rebukes.9 The light of the righteous shines brightly, but the lamp of the wicked is snuffed out.10 Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.11 Dishonest money dwindles away, but whoever gathers money little by little makes it grow.12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick,but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.13 Whoever scorns instruction will pay for it, but whoever respects a command is rewarded.14 The teaching of the wise is a fountain of life, turning a person from the snares of death.15 Good judgment wins favor, but the way of the unfaithful leads to their destruction.16 All who are prudent act with knowledge, but fools expose their folly.17 A wicked messenger falls into trouble, but a trustworthy envoy brings healing.18 Whoever disregards discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored.19 A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul, but fools detest turning from evil.20 Walk with the wise and become wise,for a companion of fools suffers harm.21 Trouble pursues the sinner, but the righteous are rewarded with good things.22 A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children,but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous.23 An unplowed field produces food for the poor,  but injustice sweeps it away.24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.25 The righteous eat to their hearts’ content but the stomach of the wicked goes hungry.

Proverbs 17

Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.2 A prudent servant will rule over a disgraceful son and will share the inheritance as one of the family.3 The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold,but the Lord tests the heart.4 A wicked person listens to deceitful lips;a liar pays attention to a destructive tongue.5 Whoever mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker; whoever gloats over disaster will not go unpunished.6 Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.7 Eloquent lips are unsuited to a godless fool— how much worse lying lips to a ruler!8 A bribe is seen as a charm by the one who gives it; they think success will come at every turn.9 Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.10 A rebuke impresses a discerning person more than a hundred lashes a fool.11 Evildoers foster rebellion against God;the messenger of death will be sent against them.12 Better to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than a fool bent on folly.13 Evil will never leave the house of one who pays back evil for good.14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.15 Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent— the Lord detests them both.16 Why should fools have money in hand to buy wisdom, when they are not able to understand it17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.18 One who has no sense shakes hands in pledge and puts up security for a neighbor.19 Whoever loves a quarrel loves sin;whoever builds a high gate invites destruction.20 One whose heart is corrupt does not prosper; one whose tongue is perverse falls into trouble.21 To have a fool for a child brings grief there is no joy for the parent of a godless fool.22 A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.23 The wicked accept bribes in secret to pervert the course of justice.24 A discerning person keeps wisdom in view, but a fool’s eyes wander to the ends of the earth.25 A foolish son brings grief to his father and bitterness to the mother who bore him.26 If imposing a fine on the innocent is not good, surely to flog honest officials is not right.27 The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.28 Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.

Proverbs 24

Proverbs 29: 1 – 9

Whoever remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy.2 When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; when the wicked rule, the people groan.3 A man who loves wisdom brings joy to his father, but a companion of prostitutes squanders his wealth.4 By justice a king gives a country stability,  but those who are greedy for bribes tear it down.5 Those who flatter their neighbors are spreading nets for their feet.6 Evildoers are snared by their own sin, but the righteous shout for joy and are glad.7 The righteous care about justice for the poor, but the wicked have no such concern.8 Mockers stir up a city, but the wise turn away anger.9 If a wise person goes to court with a fool, the fool rages and scoffs, and there is no peace.

One Hour Time with our Children

Discussion time..thoughts…lesson learned…value added

Who’s In Control & Potential The Results of Control

“No dating until you are 16, and that’s final.”   What sort of message does this send?  Questions and responses on pages 94 through 97

Focus on Training

Instead of focusing on controlling our teenagers, our focus should be on their training, their ability to think, and their capacity to make good decisions without our help

Proverbs 18:13

To answer before listening—  that is folly and shame.

Whats Really going on? Folly and Shame:

Pages 100 – 103

What does Folly mean?

What does Shame mean?

Final Lesson 7 Thoughts…..

Lessons Learned……

Value Added…….

Take away of all this lesson 7 study was……..-





Feb 16 2014

Lesson 4 Notes

Diving into God’s Word

Isaiah 61:1-3   The Year of the Lord’s Favor

61 The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners,
2 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn, 3  and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes,
the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.

Luke 4:16-21 Jesus Rejected at Nazareth

16 He went to Nazareth, where he had been brought up, and on the Sabbath day he went into the synagogue, as was his custom. He stood up to read, 17 and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written: 18 “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free, 19  to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”20 Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him. 21 He began by saying to them, “Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing.”

2 Corinthians 1:1-11 The God all of Comfort

1 Paul, an apostle of Christ Jesus by the will of God, and Timothy our brother, To the church of God in Corinth, together with all his holy people throughout Achaia: 2 Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. 3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 7 And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort. 8 We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about the troubles we experienced in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. 9 Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 10 He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us again. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, 11 as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.

Galatians 6:1-9  Doing Good to All

6 Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. 2 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. 3 If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. 4 Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, 5 for each one should carry their own load. 6 Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor. 7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

John 8:1-11

1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. 2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. 3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. 9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11 “No one, sir,” she said “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

Weekly Memorization Verse

1 Peter 4:19

19 So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.

The Wounded Wife : Pages 50 – 52

The summary of the wounded wife covers the timeline of Janice.  Janice, as a child, found herself in a very lonely state from an early age.  The foundation of her issues as the reader of the short story finds is the nonemotional, harsh at times, unaffectionate father she longed to hear words of comfort from.  The author goes onto say how this accompanied by feelings of insecurity plagued Janice through her formative years and into early adulthood.  In search of love all she found was loveless lustful flings.  It appeared to her that the only way to find love was to give herself away as the currency of exchange.  This addictive pattern was an overpowering drug.  Although she came to a point in her life of giving her heart to Jesus, her seemingly perfect marriage was interrupted by her past drug of choice, the thrill of so called love.  This thrill lead Janice to have an affair with a coworker, not only once but twice within a two year span.  The cop out is this supposed deep wound she experienced while growing up with a fatherless father.  While not for a second would anyone excuse her father for not being a loving, caring giving, servant father, however lets not forget that Janice must be accountable for her own actions and being real on this situation the issue was and is sin.

4 Questions follow the story.

Woundedness Brought to Marriage : Pages 53 – 55

3 Questions follow the message on woundedness brought to marriage.

1 Peter 3:7 

7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Live with your wives?

Understanding way?

Show her honor?

Prayers may not be hindered?

How will understanding your wife affect your marriage and how will it change you?  Well let us first remember that we are called upon by God to Love our wife as Christ loves the church.  How does Christ love the Church?  Christ gave his life for the Church.  Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

Simply put give your life up for your wife.  Christ’s love for the church is without end and so much more than words can explain.  Leaving it at that alone is enough to focus on for any given minute, its hard not to gloss over this message.  Moreover it is just plain hard to grasp the major impact on the statement on giving up your life for your wife.  I’m looking beyond the physical act of giving your life up; the selfish things we do like sports or hobbies that consume our time is the part we must improve on.  Most husbands would give their life in a heart beat for their wife – if it were just that easy.  Moving further lets look at Ephesians 5:28-33

28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Just as we feed ourselves on a daily basis we shall look after our wives needs in the same manner.  Our wives physical, emotional, financial and spiritual need must be met as fervently as we meet our own needs.  In this way the charge of a man is defined; yet we must continue to dive into God’s word to further detail this charge. Looking at Colossians 3:19 we read:

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Assuming we have nailed down Ephesians 5:28, verse 19 in the third chapter of Colossians may already addressed.  In the realm of programming with recursion, rule number one is that to you solve recursion with recursion – so basically after understanding and implementing the short verse identified in Colossians, role on back to Ephesians 5:28 – repeat.  Further reading in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5

3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The husband is further defined as not having authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.  We also find in this scripture that it is not a matter if one will have lack of self-control – that alone should emphasize this passage as a key to keeping the sanctity and strong bond existence with the marriage.  As we continue to look into God’s word on this topic.  Within Proverbs 5:18-19 we read

18 May your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Being captivated and totally intoxicated by the beauty and glory of your wife – pray for strength in resisting the outside world social norms and temptations that come with so called modern families.  A few lessons back covered the topic of how the outside media has affected your view on marriage – we find within lesson 4 that the outside media affected Janice’s view on love – at least in directly with her hope in finding love in high school when love and affection was not directed her way by her father during her formative years.  Maintaing focus within the topic of husbands loving their wives as Christ loves the Church we read in 1 Timothy that husbands should seek and desire their wives to be modest and reserved in their nature.  Again going against the social norm and certainly the womanizing effect of society on woman today.  1 Timothy 2:9 and 10

9 I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

Paul’s inspired words are timeless and all the more important in the society we find ourselves living in today.  The impacts the media continues to have on young woman and wives alike today are evident everywhere.  Including finding a way into the walls of our church body.  As the spiritual leader of the household, the husband must examine this verse carefully.  Is your wife causing a brother to falter outside or even inside of the church?  Husbands must find encouragement for their wives to be modest in public, and why not, reserve such a special occasion between husband and wife – only.

So how do husbands do all of these things we read in scripture – well as a continued study myself in the role of a husband I suspect we can look again into scripture. Surely without being a full encompassing source of the answers myself, I  find a few places that we as husbands can look to in scripture.

Proverbs 31:28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her

So as we read in Proverbs we praise her.  A very good friend of mine has said you make a remark about your wife you are saying something about yourself, you picked her, so they better all be praises.  We find praises in Song of Songs 4:7 You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.  Whose wife does not want to hear that from her husband.  There are so many more references to ponder and study upon; for now this is a good starting point for myself to delve into.  Maybe the reader will find some points in these notes worth utilizing…and maybe not.  For now Serve Our God – All Mighty God.